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He set the scene of the backyard drama: "My sister Nicole (34) brought her new boyfriend, Steve, to our family cookout yesterday. It was for about 30 people. It was potluck style: everyone brought sides.
My sister brought a bag of store-brand potato chips, and her boyfriend helped himself to a beer immediately before being introduced to everyone. We were having hamburgers and hot dogs and hanging out with the family — nothing fancy." He went on to explain: "Steve asked, 'Is this it?' when the first plate of hot dogs was done and we were waiting on the round of hamburgers.
My wife said there will be hamburgers soon, and Steve told her and my sister about his family's cookouts and how they have 'BBQ chicken, steak, shrimp, and many options.'" The host clapped back: "I picked up the plate of hot dogs and told Steve he could leave and go to his family BBQ instead. He just looked at me and drank his beer.
I told him and my sister to go since this wasn't good enough for Steve. I gave my sister her store-brand chips back and told her to get out." He conceded: "Maybe there was a misunderstanding, but Steve was just an asshole commenting like that at someone’s house and the first time you meet their family.
My wife thinks I was right because Steve acted like that in her home, and insulting the host is a good reason to be kicked out. Others are split about 50/50 when they heard about what happened." So, his family and friends were split about how he handled the situation, and his mom was definitely upset.
But the real question is, how do strangers on the internet feel about it? Here were some of the top comments and bits of advice people had for him: Some shared what would've happened in this situation at their family gatherings: "In my family, we would have said 'well that's nice' and then everyone would have completely ignored him. Admittedly, there probably been at least one person who just said 'What an asshole!' Everyone would just be hoping he would take the hint and leave." Another had their own idea for how he could have spoken to the boyfriend, Steve: "Bless your heart, your family was so busy stuffing their faces with chicken and steak that they forgot to teach you manners!" People loved this response: "The way to do it is to tell him 'bless your heart' and then huck them out of there.
A little bit of Southern polite passive aggressiveness followed by a more straightforward GTFO. Very satisfying." One commenter shared what he could have said to his mom: "'Mom, you're more than welcome to let (sister's name) boyfriend insult you in your home, but he won't be doing it in mine.
'" Another said : "Or, 'Sure, mom, I'll apologize.' Then to sister and her dump of a man: 'Sorry you two suck so hard.'" One user had words for the sister: "'Dear sister, I’m sorry your standards are so low that you think he is meet-your-family quality.
'" Many were suuuuper offended, not by the date's behavior, but by what they brought: "Not even name brand and no dip. Of all the nerve." Another replied: "Right? Store brand chips are perfectly delicious.
The disturbing lack of dip? Unforgivable." Others felt similarly: "'They brought a bag of chips, drank beer they didn't provide, and thought you were cheap?!? Rude, entitled, and deserved the treatment they received. Anyone who thinks you were wrong can invite them to their next party.
" Some thought he overreacted to his sister's boyfriend. One person said : "As someone who's no contact with most of my bio family for reasons like racism, homophobia, abuse, etc., someone making mildly rude/entitled comments at a cookout doesn't seem like something worth flipping out over.
Calling out the behavior is certainly warranted, but throwing him out after he stopped is overkill." "You went too code red too quickly," another added. "And you kicked your sister out too.
.. Yes, he was rude.
But for your sister's sake, you could have been more diplomatic about it and given him a little more rope." "You don't need to accept rudeness in your face, but you didn't need to escalate it immediately by kicking them out. You could throw his rudeness back in his face with something like: 'Well, you could always head to your family if you're not happy here, or try to act like a grown-up with us here.
Your choice.' If he shapes up, it's a learning moment for adult Steve. If he continued being a jerk, then you could have escalated it and kicked him out.
This way, it also allows your sis to see Steve in action. To see if he can improve when confronted with his own rudeness, or if he is 100% full-time all the time, asshole." Now I'm curious, as someone who loves to host (and loves a goss just as much), would you have kicked your sister and her less-than-gracious boyfriend out? Let us know in the comments!.
