2 weeks Ago
Dear Jana, Is it normal for my partner to take a long time to finish during sex? He can last for over 30 minutes and wears it like a badge of honour. I get bored within 10 minutes and want to wrap it up. How long is 'normal', and are there any tips or guidelines to help things along? I'm starting to get over the never-ending jackhammering.
Luce. Dear Luce, I think you and I speak on behalf of all women-kind when we say, 'Lads, can you hurry it up?' Unless you are going 'downtown' first before delighting us with a lovely mid-to-long schlong, we really don't want to be there all day. And don't get me wrong, sex is a wonderful experience - honestly, I can't get enough of it - but I understand you completely.
I hate to tell you this, but if your partner is lasting that long, there's a fair chance he had already some 'special alone time' with himself earlier that day and, hence, he's not racing to the finishing line. A morning wank does wonders for later stamina. So perhaps move your night marathons to a morning quickie.
He'll be a happy chappy within three to five minutes and you will hopefully have enjoyed a morning orgasm. What better way to start the day? Alternatively, I find some good old fashioned dirty talk mid-thrust really gets them to the finish line. Put an extra naughty thought in his mind while he's enjoying you and he'll be profusely apologising for his quick exit before you know it.
And in terms of the jackhammering, sit that man down and tell him in a saucy way exactly what you would like him to do. Start with, 'I'd really like to try..
.' and suggest something more exciting than his usual thrusting routine. Jackhammers are for work sites, not the bedroom.
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