Relationship expert says cut toxic people from your life

It's a common question many of us ask ourselves every day - "should I unfriend that person on Facebook ?" Nowadays, our social media channels are filled with so many people who may not seem relevant to our lives anymore. Whether they be an old school friend, someone you worked with years ago or an ex-flame - sometimes our timelines are crammed with updates we could simply do without. Perhaps that's why TV host Jimmy Kimmel decided to start National Unfriend Day, which is celebrated on November 17.

The day basically encourages Facebook users to remove people who are not true friends. Naturally, the trend soon went viral , and now people count down the hours in November until they can officially rid people from their timelines. Some even believe National Unfriend Day can highlight real issues related to self-esteem.

While it may seem like a really good reason to say goodbye to people who no longer serve you, letting them go can actually be good for you too. Dating coach and relationship expert, James Preece , author at HeraHaven.ai , admitted there are many reasons why being brutal can put a spring in your step.

James said: "As National Unfriend Day approaches, now is the perfect time to reflect on the relationships in your life. While distancing yourself from someone, or even unfriending people, may seem like an extreme and uncomfortable decision, it is actually one of the most powerful acts of self-care you can practice. "This is because we often hold onto connections, both romantic and platonic, that no longer serve us and bring us down.

In doing so, this can prevent us from finding true happiness and life satisfaction. "If you’re searching for healthier relationships, or even a dream partner, one of the best first steps to take is to let go of people who are holding you back. You simply can’t focus on meeting your dream partner if you’re still thinking about an old one.

"Focusing on a past relationship, especially one that is toxic, leaves little emotional space for new connections to grow. So, you need to make room for new people in your life by releasing old attachments. "It’s not just removing negativity.

It’s about being conscious about your own self-worth and prioritising your well-being. Cutting ties with people who make you feel miserable is an act of kindness to yourself. "While the connection may have served you once, it’s okay to admit you’ve outgrown them, and it’s time to set free.

Relationships evolve, and people grow apart. It’s unhealthy to hold onto something, and letting go allows both people to move forward and find true happiness." But, if you're going to cut someone out, the expert said it's wise to try and forgive them beforehand.

If you don't, you could still find yourself stuck in a negative emotional cycle. You could even write a letter to the person you’re letting go of, explaining how you feel and how they made you feel, and then burn it. This freeing exercise is a symbolic practice that allows you to release the past without the need for awkwardness or confrontation.

As well as this, you need to learn to forgive yourself. Don’t blame yourself for the relationship not working. Instead, remember that you did what was right at the time, and now you’re making a clear decision to focus on your happiness.

This mindset will help you move forward and make better choices when it comes to relationships. James added: "By letting go of toxic people and relationships, you’re making space for more fulfilling and healthier connections. So, take your time, enjoy the process and focus on your own happiness this National Unfriend Day.

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