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Rachael Kirkconnell showed up on on Tuesday night (January 28), finally breaking her silence on her recent breakup from Matt James. Saying there are days she can "barely get out of bed" because of how much she misses Matt, Rachael said "he's not a cheater" and that Matt was faithful throughout their relationship. She went on to say that the first two years of their relationship was fun and she wasn't too worried about a proposal or marriage, but that eventually she wanted more commitment.
"Our third year of dating was when I started to just ask, 'okay where is this going?'" she said. "He seemed like he was on the same page. It's confusing to look back on now because when we would talk about things he always seemed like he was on the same page, privately or publicly.
" Rachael said that a few months ago Matt suggested that they look at rings, which felt like a "green flag," as did their chats about getting married and having kids. But things changed when they were traveling, and Rachael got stressed out picking out a dinner spot. She ended up crying during the meal, and was worried she'd disappointed Matt since food content was such a big part of their online presence together.
"He just was trying to express to me like, 'If you get emotional about little things like this, like, what is going to happen in life when something really terrible happens?'" She explained, "Like how are you going to be able to react to things that are actually really scary, or disappointing, or sad? I don't know, it just hurt to hear because I'm like, 'I probably would react to things that are terrible in a sad way. Like, what do you mean?' I don't know. I felt like I was being punished for crying.
" They ended up ending things the next day, when a small argument "opened up a can of worms." "He said that at the end of the day there were just qualities about me that he worries about having in a wife," she explained. "Like at the end of the day, there are things that we aren't compatible with and like, the whole accountability and saying sorry and all that, was really the main thing.
It was just one of those things where he, I think, just had this realization that 'I should want to propose to you by this time. Like at this point in our relationship, I should be wanting those things and I should be ready for that. But I'm not still, I still don't feel like we're ready, or I don't feel like I'm ready.
I don't know if I ever see myself proposing to you. I can't actually see myself married to you.' He said that, you know, 'Maybe one day he would get there, but he doesn't feel ready now.
'" Rachael told him he should feel ready after four years, and Matt came to the conclusion that he didn't think Rachael the person he was supposed to be with: "He said like, he just didn't want me to end up resenting him by wasting more of my time if it wouldn't happen. And yeah, he just said, you know, 'You're beautiful, smart and funny and you'll find, you'll find someone, you'll find a guy that will love you for you.' But yeah, he just didn't think that it was him.
But it was just really...
it was just a lot to hear at once because a few days before, you know, I'm hearing the opposite." Matt hasn't responded to Rachael's interview yet, but we'll let you know if that changes..
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