Opinion: How music helped my son overcome autism’s challenges

Parenting comes with many uncertainties, but when you have a child with autism, those uncertainties can feel overwhelming. You ask yourself tough questions: Will my child find their place in the world? Will they be able to connect with others? Will they have the confidence to express themselves? These were the questions I faced when my son was diagnosed — questions many families across Alberta face with Autism Spectrum Disorder as the most commonly diagnosed neurological disorder in children. Autism is not a barrier to success, but society often makes it one.

For children like my son, traditional social settings can be daunting and communication isn’t always straightforward. The world can feel overwhelming and opportunities to shine can be scarce. Like any parent, I wanted my child to find a place where he felt seen, valued and celebrated.



I found that place in an unexpected but profoundly powerful space, music. For my son, music became a life line, a bridge between his inner world and the outside. The Youth Singers of Calgary became the place where that bridge was built.

This remarkable organization did not just teach him how to sing or perform; they gave him the confidence to embrace who he is. They provided an environment where he wasn’t just included, he was empowered. The power of music in child development, especially for those with autism, cannot be overstated.

Research has shown that music activates neural pathways in ways that improve communication, social interaction and cognitive skills. Beyond the science, I have witnessed the transformation first-hand. The stage, once intimidating, became a space of triumph.

Each song, each performance, each moment of applause reinforced his self-worth and gave him the confidence to stand tall in a world that often overlooks kids like him. This isn’t just about one child. It’s about what happens when we create inclusive spaces for all children.

It’s about what happens when we move beyond tolerance and embrace true belonging. In a time when funding for arts programs is increasingly at risk, we must remember that these are not “extras.” They are essential.

For many children, especially those who struggle to find connection in other spaces, music is a pathway to confidence and success. Across Canada, there are countless young people who, when given the right environment and support, will rise to their full potential. But it takes a commitment — from parents, educators, and policy-makers — to ensure that arts programs remain accessible to all children, regardless of their abilities.

My son’s journey is still unfolding, but what I know for certain is that the opportunities he found through music changed his life. They gave him a voice in more ways than one. And as we look to the future, I hope we can all recognize that every child deserves the chance to be heard.

Because when we invest in the arts, we are not just nurturing talent — we are unlocking human potential. And that is a song worth singing. Leela Aheer is a mother and a former Alberta politician.

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