My husband wants to use his life savings to save his mother but I don’t approve of it

File photo of a worried woman Dear GhanaWeb, My husband’s mother has been sick for over a year now. She is suffering from an illness which requires surgery, and the doctors are demanding for GH₵450,000. We are supposed to pay all the money before the surgery can be done.

My husband has two other siblings, but he is the only one doing well for himself so he is solely responsible for his mother’s medical expenses. He doesn’t even have up to the amount needed. He said he has about GH₵300,000 and I can add up to it for the surgery but I feel it would be waste of money.



His mother is 71 years old. He can spend this huge money on her and she will still die tomorrow, nobody knows. Aside that, he is solely handling all the expenses which I’m not happy because his brothers can at least bring something.

They’re in their late 20s so why can’t they? I have been thinking and discouraging my husband not to spend all his savings on his mother. We are likely to come to nothing if he wastes all the money on her. What would happen if she dies after? We would be needing money for her funeral.

I’ve decided not to give him the rest of the money to add but he is asking me to give him as loan. We were hoping to travel with this money and we wanted to give ourselves a good life. Investing all that into an old woman is a bad investment, in my opinion.

I suggested that, he should keep managing his mother until she passes on. My husband thinks I’m saying this because his mother isn’t mine but I will do same if it was my mother. Imagine working so hard and saving so much just to spend on someone who would likely not be alive in the next 5 years, even if the surgery should be successful.

We have a whole future ahead of us. I’m not yet 30 and my husband is 37. Am I being unreasonable here? He wants to get a loan elsewhere and invest in his sick mother.

This is getting me worried, we’re always having issues because of this situation. We were so happy together until this came up. He doesn’t want to accept the fact I’m telling him the truth.

How would I convince him better? What should I do now? FG/EB Watch the latest Twi news below:.