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A mom said she had to put her foot down after an incident at her aunt's house that involved her daughter's shoes. In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------," the 33-year-old mom said that she has a 53-year-old aunt, and that from time to time, the woman's 6-year-old daughter goes there for sleepovers. The trouble began during one of those visits.
At one point, the mom said she "got a phone call about my daughter's toes being red" and said that her aunt wanted to toss the shoes — but the mom, who said she hadn't known the shoes were so small, didn't want to just throw them away. Instead, since the shoes were still in good condition, she wanted to keep them, putting the shoes aside for her 2-year-old niece. But little did she know that her aunt then "decided to go to my mom (53F) for permission to pitch the shoes.
" Since the woman's mom had no idea what was going on, she ended up giving her "blessing" to throw them out — but the Redditor didn't know all of this yet. Related: Woman Says She Refuses to Contribute to Family Christmas Gift After Finding Out It Was Going to Her Brother. Here’s Why When it was time for the woman's daughter to get dropped off, she said that her aunt "bolted" as soon as she could, "which was weird for her.
" Of course, she soon understood why. “As I was emptying my daughter's luggage I noticed said shoes were not in there," the woman wrote. "I found out the truth shortly after.
" Related: Mom Says Her 'Frugal' Dad Complained About Her Daughter’s Diner Order Because It Violated His 'Rule of Etiquette' Ultimately, the woman said that the issue isn't "just about the shoes" — and that "this has happened multiple times with other things." Moving forward, she wrote that she told her aunt that if her decisions aren't being respected — and her daughter is able to return home with "everything she brought" — then visits aren''t going to happen anymore. The majority of commenters agreed that she was in the right, although some suggested that her aunt wasn't the only person she should be mad at.
Related: 20-Year-Old Says He Pretended Not to Notice Neighbor During Walk, Then She Told His Mom “NTA but your mom is also a problem," one commenter wrote. "Why on earth would she give her opinion or permission when asked about something concerning your daughter? I think you need to make it clear to both of them that you are the only authority when it comes to your daughter so if they don't have your permission then it shouldn't happen." Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories.
Another added, “NTA, your aunt should have returned the shoes and never consulted your mother, and your mother should have directed your aunt back to you or asked you what about the shoes. You say this has happened before, time to set firm boundaries. Don’t let your daughter stay overnight and tell her you want a replacement pair of shoes or it’s theft.
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