1 day Ago
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I, along with a friend, pre-purchased hard-to-get opera tickets. We’ve looked forward to attending for many months. However, we just learned that our companion intends to bring her extremely unruly “comfort” poodle -- not only to the opera, but also to a lovely restaurant for dinner beforehand.
This dog is hyperactive and annoying; it is not a service animal that our friend needs for seeing or hearing. Now that we know the dog is going, we want to bow out of the engagement, but would prefer to do it in the least hurtful way. Should we simply say we won’t go if the dog comes along? GENTLE READER: That is not the least hurtful way, but Miss Manners agrees that being a party to this party is going to be anything but enjoyable.
Your friend has put you in the impossible position of denying the importance of the poodle to her well-being -- which you presumably have no desire to do -- or of bearing witness to the inconveniences that you know this pair will impose on others at the event. While it would be rude to renege on the commitment you made to attend (absent an illness or other force majeure event), people do make mistakes. See if you can change your tickets, then apologize to your friend that you are actually attending on a different date.
Otherwise, you are going to have to get sick, which Miss Manners sees as the least bad choice. *** (Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.
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