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A man asked his girlfriend to buy her own engagement ring — and she wasn't happy about it. The man, 24, explained his rationale in a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum. Although he's ready to propose to his girlfriend of three years, he "can't afford" a diamond ring because he's currently unemployed.
He figured his girlfriend, 25, could buy it for herself because she has "a good salary." "We are living together and very in love," he wrote. "We’ve discussed marriage before and are on the same page about it.
I’d like to propose to her because there’s no reason to wait when we both know we want to marry each other. The problem is I really don’t have a lot of money." He recently brought up his financial situation to his girlfriend, and noted that it shouldn't be a problem that he's "between jobs" because they'll "eventually have a joint bank account.
" "Since our money will be shared anyway, I asked if she would pay for her engagement ring," he said. "I thought this made a lot of sense and wouldn’t be a problem. I was wrong.
" Related: Wedding Guest, 39, Says Friend Is Insisting on Sharing Hotel Room with Her at Destination Wedding "My gf (girlfriend) seemed really offended by this and said that she wouldn’t fully buy her own ring. I don’t get this, it’s going to all be OUR money anyway, so why should it matter who pays for the ring?" the man asked. "She’s been kind of distant with me.
" "I’m wondering if my request was really so wrong," he added. Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. In the comments section, the majority of Reddit users labeled the man as TA (The A------) in this situation.
Many users said that engagement rings are supposed to symbolize a person's love and commitment to their partner, so him putting zero effort and dollars into the ring looks bad. "That's like an extreme version of asking someone to buy their own birthday present," one person commented. "And just because you are married doesn't mean that you are entitled to her money.
" "Have you even tried to save?" another Redditor questioned. "It sounds like you’re banking on her money." Some commenters pointed out there are plenty of "simple and cost effective" engagement ring options, such as lab-grown diamonds.
Others alleged that the poster is a "gold digger." In response, the man updated his post to defend himself. But, he didn't change his opinion.
"Wow, I see everyone thinks I’m a gold digger after my gf’s money? That’s ridiculous, I love her for who she is, not her money," he began his postscript, adding, "I don’t see why saying the money will be ours anyway is so bad, because it WILL. My money will be hers too in our future joint bank account." Read the original article on People.
