'I don't want to leave my newborn for hen do – but I am the maid of honour'

When you've had a baby, you want to be in a little bubble with them for as long as possible - to appreciate them, nurture them, and ensure they have everything they need. Some parents want to be in that bubble for longer than others, and while some will be itching for a night out, others may just want to snuggle up in a cosy blanket with their newborn . When one new mum was set to be maid of honour at her friend's wedding, she was feeling the pressure to go abroad for the hen do - but didn't want to leave her baby.

Taking to Mumsnet , she explained how her friend was "disappointed" at her not going The new mum said her pal was having two hen dos, one in the UK and one abroad. "She is having a home hen, which myself and the other bridesmaids are organising/paying for, and I am so excited to celebrate with her," she said. However, she's also having "an abroad hen", which as maid of honour, she's expected to also go to.



"I have a five-month-old baby, which will be seven months at the time...

and basically, I am not ready to leave my baby while I go abroad to party," she shared. "She has asked me to go a few times, and I have explained how I feel. However, I know she’s really disappointed that I’m not going, and I’m her maid of honour.

Also, it doesn’t help that my partner is going on a lad's holiday shortly after...

but it’s just different?" She asked people whether she was being "unfair". One wrote in response: "You are not being unfair at all. You are going on the home one, no-one is obliged to spend a fortune to go abroad for someone else's pleasure! You've told her you can't go.

You've told her your reasons. She needs to accept this and stop being a Bridezilla!" Another added: "You had made your decision (which is the same as I would have done at 5/7 months) and let her know in enough time. She should let this drop now.

Can you say to her nicely how much you are looking forward to the UK one and how you aren't ready to leave your little one?" And a third said: "It's actually a tough one, I think. It's not really a right or wrong answer. It's perfectly acceptable to say no, but it's also perfectly acceptable for the bride to want you there.

You are the MOH, and I assume accepted that role knowing there are obligations/expectations on you. "I also fully understand your not wanting to leave your baby. I wouldn't have left my first child.

By the second, I would have been there in a flash! Can your husband come too and bring the baby? Obviously, stay separately, but then you could see them.".