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Gillian Anderson admits she wishes she had a more active sex life when she was single and highlights the importance of 'fantasy' in the bedroom Have YOU got a story? Email [email protected] By Jessica Janes For Mailonline Published: 22:15, 18 September 2024 | Updated: 22:31, 18 September 2024 e-mail 7 shares 8 View comments Gillian Anderson revealed she wished she was more active in the bedroom when she was single as she discussed love and relationships, and the importance of sexual fantasy on The Modern Love Podcast. The X Files actress, 56, joined host Anna Martin on Wednesday to read and discuss the Modern Love essay 'On Tinder, Off Sex,' which follows a woman who becomes unintentionally celibate after a painful breakup.
The author fantasises about past and potential loves but can't seem to break out of what her doctor has called 'secondary abstinence.' After reading the essay on the podcast, Anna asked Gillian if she could relate to anything the woman wrote about sex choosing to 'abstain' from her. To which Gillian confessed that there have been times in her life where she could have been more 'active in the sex arena'.
Gillian Anderson revealed she wished she was more active in the bedroom when she was single as she discussed love and relationships, and the importance of sexual fantasy on The Modern Love Podcast (pictured December 2023) The X Files actress, 56, joined host Anna Martin on Wednesday to read and discuss the Modern Love essay 'On Tinder, Off Sex,' which follows a woman who becomes unintentionally celibate after a painful breakup She admitted: 'There's certainly been times in my life between relationships when I was single and suddenly decided that, actually, I could be more active in the sex arena than I was.' Read More Revealed: Kinky letters in Gillian Anderson's book Want fantasise 'passionate sex' with Harry Styles, religious romps and voyeurism She added: 'But I know that place of feeling like it wasn't something that I wasn't doing. It was something that wasn't doing to me, you know, in some way.
' 'But I think people can get in the habit of that. I think it's an easy habit to get into, and just kind of put it in a box.' The star also revealed how practicing intense yoga on a daily basis helped her to snap out of it.
She said: 'There was a period of time I'd been single for a while. I was living in Los Angeles. I was between relationships and maybe early 30s.
' 'And I just started to do really intense Ashtanga yoga on a regular basis. And I felt more connected to myself and my body than I ever had before that I think in my life.' She then told Anna how once she started yoga training regularly, people tended to gravitate more towards her.
She confessed: 'There was a period of time where people were just popping up out of the woodwork.' After reading the essay on the podcast, Anna asked Gillian if she could relate to anything the woman wrote about sex choosing to 'abstain' from her (pictured in 2022) She admitted: 'There's certainly been times in my life between relationships when I was single and suddenly decided that, actually, I could be more active in the sex arena than I was' (pictured in 2021) 'Like literally, I would be anywhere. I'd be standing at a Starbucks, I'd be walking down the road.
It was just like, what has happened?' 'It had never been like that before. So there was something, I think, that I was vibrating, really comfortable in my skin and with myself.' 'And I probably felt a bit more confident and more effervescent and people were responding to that.
' During the podcast, host Anna and Gillian also discussed the importance of fantasy in relationships. Anna asked Gillian if people in the real world should cultivate their fantasy lives while in a relationship. To which Gillian admitted that sexual fantasies in a relationship are 'healthy' and can only 'bring people together'.
She confessed: 'No, I think a fantasy life in a relationship is really healthy. I mean, some people can't reach climax without a fantasy helping to get them there.' 'I would also say that sharing it with one's partner is an incredibly healthy thing to do and can potentially enhance the sex that a couple can have,' 'If you feel that you can put yourself in a vulnerable enough position to be able to share it, because they're very intimate details, and it can only bring people together.
' While discussing her new book Want: Sexual Fantasies By Anonymous, Gillian admitted that submitting her own fantasy to the book anonymously took her a 'while'. Admitting she felt resistance to doing so, Gillian said: 'I felt resistance — I'd get a certain distance, and I'd felt resistance to writing down words that I would say willy nilly,' 'That could fly out of my mouth in completely inappropriate situations, yet somehow, actually putting them down on paper, and it wasn't even that then I was going to press Send, and they were going to land with somebody at my publisher's.' 'It was just the writing of it down.
I thought, what is that? I mean, what is that?' The actress met her first husband Clyde Klotz on the X Files set and they tied the knot in Hawaii on January 1 1994 (pictured in 1995) The pair then welcomed their daughter Piper Maru, 29, (seen) several months later. However, the couple divorced in 1997 (Gillian and Piper pictured in 2017) In the groundbreaking book, Gillian collects and introduces the anonymous sexual fantasies of women from around the world (along with her own anonymous submission). Each entry is full of desire, fear, intimacy, shame, satisfaction and, ultimately, liberation.
Gillian is best known for her roles as FBI Special Agent Dana Scully in the sci-fi series The X Files, Lily Bart in the drama movie The House of Mirth, DSI Stella Gibson in the BBC crime drama series The Fall, Jean Milburn in the Netflix comedy-drama series Sex Education and Margaret Thatcher in the Netflix drama series The Crown. Among other honours, she has won two Primetime Emmy Awards, two Golden Globe Awards, and four Screen Actors Guild Awards. The actress met her first husband Clyde Klotz on the X Files set and they tied the knot in Hawaii on January 1 1994.
The pair then welcomed their daughter Piper Maru, 29, several months later. However, the couple divorced in 1997. In 2004 Gillian went on to marry Julian Ozanne and they separated in 2006 before finalising their divorce in 2007.
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