Feeld Made Me Feel Seen in My Nonmonogamy

Online dating is still wildly popular in 2025, with nearly three in ten US adults saying they have used a dating site or app, according to Pew Research Center. But dating looks a little bit different than it used to. In the same survey, it was found that 34 percent of folks described their ideal relationship as something other than traditional monogamy. Enter: Feeld.Whether you're on dating apps or not, you've probably heard Feeld is the most inclusive of the bunch. A self-proclaimed dating app for the "curious," Feeld is a unique corner of the dating world built for folks looking to explore just about anything and everything - and personally, as a queer and married woman in an open relationship, I'm into it. Feeld is the preferred dating app among people who are interested in exploring ethical nonmonogamy, swinging, sexual fantasies, polyamory, or who have expansive feelings about gender and sexual expression. The app aims to be a safe, inclusive corner for everyone - even, and especially, since the second Trump administration took office and slashed protections for trans and gender nonconforming people. Feeld CEO Ana Kirova has been open about her commitment to upholding the inclusive labels available on the app, recently telling Wired: "We remain dedicated to nurturing an environment where everyone can be and express themselves authentically, respectfully, and without fear of discrimination, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation." So if you're gay, heteroflexible, pansexual, asexual, aromantic, a voyeur, or just about anything else, Feeld welcomes one and all. (At least way more than just "two" genders.)Here's everything you need to know about the app that's being heralded as a safe haven for the LGBTQ+ community.Feeld PricingFeeld is free to download, but for the full experience, there are membership options starting at $14 per month. And before you start saying that paying for a dating app is a faux pas: More folks are paying for dating apps than ever before, because the apps have evolved to favor paying members. Whether we like it or not, putting a credit card down now gives users across the app spectrum a better chance to meet a new lover or lifelong partner. With the Majestic Membership on Feeld, users can take part in skipping profiles, date "globally" - think of matching and setting up a date night with someone for a date ahead of your summer trip to France - or send unlimited pings, which is the feature that shows someone you really like them.Common Feeld TerminologyDepending on your level of kink and queer expertise, once you've downloaded Feeld, you might come across some new terminology. Find a list of some of the most-used terminology about gender and sexual preferences here:FWB: Friends with benefits.FFM: A threesome involving two people who identify as female, and one who identifies as male.GGG: A term popularized by sex columnist Dan Savage to define the qualities of an excellent sexual partner: good (in bed), giving (of time and pleasure), and game (for exploring and being open-minded).Heteroflexible: Heteroflexible applies to someone who's primarily sexually and/or romantically attracted to genders other than their own, but is also open to having sexual and/or romantic interactions with people of the same gender.Polyamorous: A form of ethical nonmonogamy (ENM) or consensual nonmonogamy (CSM), polyamory consists of having consensual relationships that involve multiple partners.My Feeld ReviewWhen I first learned about Feeld, I was on a date with a girl who had met her partner on the app back in 2021. I was hesitant to try it out. As someone who identifies as bisexual, is ethically nonmonogamous, and married to a man, I hadn't had good experiences with dating apps prior. There's a reason I am banned from Tinder for life (yes, really.) Most of the other dating apps aren't made for or inclusive to folks like me.But this past year, after a few failed stints on Hinge, I decided to finally give Feeld a try, and I'm really glad I did. Right off the bat, the first thing I noticed was just how inclusive it really was. On my profile, I could link up with my husband's profile, so folks who are interested in me (or us together) could easily have a way to see what we're about. I'd never been able to do that before on other dating apps. This is my favorite feature; it's one that feels like it offers what I'm all about: honesty and communication. I appreciate all of Feeld's profile options: I can list my sexuality, gender, partner, and bio right up top, followed by my desires and interests. There are so many desires to choose from - and they're changeable at any time - but I currently have listed poly, couples, singles, casual, and three-way. It removes any awkwardness or the dreaded, "So what brings you here?"I love that when I'm looking at someone else's profile, I can quickly see their desires, too. It removes any awkwardness or the dreaded, "So what brings you here?" On the other hand, I find that I am sometimes overwhelmed by the options and inundated with folks I may not be into, but that's not necessarily a bad problem to have. Overall, the app is incredibly user-friendly. It feels like the tech adapts to the needs of the users, and every time I log on, I notice a new or improved feature and feel.I've been a user of Feeld for over a year and I don't see myself stopping any time soon. Since I've made my profile, I've had a real chance at meeting like-minded folks. Over time, I've received over 5,000 likes, 200 pings, and have gone on roughly five dates total, which have all been lovely dating experiences. The app has really given me (and my partner) an opportunity to meet other ENM-minded couples, discover new terms and ways to talk about who we are, and made me feel like I am part of a larger community. Another minor downside: Sometimes the app can be a little glitchy and I don't always get notifications if someone has messaged me - which can be a real vibe killer if the other person thinks you've exited the conversation. Other than that, there aren't many cons in my book.Whenever I log on, I am reminded of the moments it has brought into my life: the date with the Australian, the girl with the blue hair, the time I explored a different kink in a threesome with my partner, and the list goes on. And still, there is always more to explore and learn about myself, so I don't imagine myself deleting it any time soon. After all, I aim to stay curious. Related: The 10 Best Polyamorous Dating Apps Hayley Folk (she/her) is a freelance writer, editor, and podcast host based in New York City. She is the host of the "Naked Folk" podcast - a sexual wellness and relationships podcast - and she writes for major publications about the LGBTQ+ community, travel, lifestyle, sex, and wellness. In 2022, she received her master of fine arts in creative writing from The New School.

Online dating is still wildly popular in 2025, with nearly three in ten US adults saying they have used a dating site or app, according to Pew Research Center . But dating looks a little bit different than it used to. In the same survey, it was found that 34 percent of folks described their ideal relationship as something other than traditional monogamy.

Enter: Feeld. Whether you're on dating apps or not, you've probably heard Feeld is the most inclusive of the bunch. A self-proclaimed dating app for the "curious," Feeld is a unique corner of the dating world built for folks looking to explore just about anything and everything — and personally, as a queer and married woman in an open relationship , I'm into it.

Feeld is the preferred dating app among people who are interested in exploring ethical nonmonogamy , swinging , sexual fantasies, polyamory , or who have expansive feelings about gender and sexual expression. The app aims to be a safe, inclusive corner for everyone — even, and especially, since the second Trump administration took office and slashed protections for trans and gender nonconforming people. Feeld CEO Ana Kirova has been open about her commitment to upholding the inclusive labels available on the app, recently telling Wired : "We remain dedicated to nurturing an environment where everyone can be and express themselves authentically, respectfully, and without fear of discrimination, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation.

" So if you're gay, heteroflexible, pansexual , asexual , aromantic , a voyeur , or just about anything else, Feeld welcomes one and all. (At least way more than just "two" genders .) Here's everything you need to know about the app that's being heralded as a safe haven for the LGBTQ+ community.

Feeld Pricing Feeld is free to download, but for the full experience, there are membership options starting at $14 per month. And before you start saying that paying for a dating app is a faux pas: More folks are paying for dating apps than ever before, because the apps have evolved to favor paying members. Whether we like it or not, putting a credit card down now gives users across the app spectrum a better chance to meet a new lover or lifelong partner.

With the Majestic Membership on Feeld, users can take part in skipping profiles, date "globally" — think of matching and setting up a date night with someone for a date ahead of your summer trip to France — or send unlimited pings, which is the feature that shows someone you really like them. Common Feeld Terminology Depending on your level of kink and queer expertise, once you've downloaded Feeld, you might come across some new terminology. Find a list of some of the most-used terminology about gender and sexual preferences here: My Feeld Review When I first learned about Feeld, I was on a date with a girl who had met her partner on the app back in 2021.

I was hesitant to try it out. As someone who identifies as bisexual, is ethically nonmonogamous, and married to a man, I hadn't had good experiences with dating apps prior. There's a reason I am banned from Tinder for life (yes, really.

) Most of the other dating apps aren't made for or inclusive to folks like me. But this past year, after a few failed stints on Hinge, I decided to finally give Feeld a try, and I'm really glad I did. Right off the bat, the first thing I noticed was just how inclusive it really was.

On my profile, I could link up with my husband's profile, so folks who are interested in me (or us together) could easily have a way to see what we're about. I'd never been able to do that before on other dating apps. This is my favorite feature; it's one that feels like it offers what I'm all about: honesty and communication.

I appreciate all of Feeld's profile options: I can list my sexuality, gender, partner, and bio right up top, followed by my desires and interests. There are so many desires to choose from — and they're changeable at any time — but I currently have listed poly, couples, singles, casual, and three-way. It removes any awkwardness or the dreaded, "So what brings you here?" I love that when I'm looking at someone else's profile, I can quickly see their desires, too.

It removes any awkwardness or the dreaded, "So what brings you here?" On the other hand, I find that I am sometimes overwhelmed by the options and inundated with folks I may not be into, but that's not necessarily a bad problem to have. Overall, the app is incredibly user-friendly. It feels like the tech adapts to the needs of the users, and every time I log on, I notice a new or improved feature and feel.

I've been a user of Feeld for over a year and I don't see myself stopping any time soon. Since I've made my profile, I've had a real chance at meeting like-minded folks. Over time, I've received over 5,000 likes, 200 pings, and have gone on roughly five dates total, which have all been lovely dating experiences.

The app has really given me (and my partner) an opportunity to meet other ENM-minded couples , discover new terms and ways to talk about who we are, and made me feel like I am part of a larger community. Another minor downside: Sometimes the app can be a little glitchy and I don't always get notifications if someone has messaged me — which can be a real vibe killer if the other person thinks you've exited the conversation. Other than that, there aren't many cons in my book.

Whenever I log on, I am reminded of the moments it has brought into my life: the date with the Australian, the girl with the blue hair, the time I explored a different kink in a threesome with my partner, and the list goes on. And still, there is always more to explore and learn about myself, so I don't imagine myself deleting it any time soon. After all, I aim to stay curious.

The 10 Best Polyamorous Dating Apps Hayley Folk (she/her) is a freelance writer, editor, and podcast host based in New York City. She is the host of the "Naked Folk" podcast — a sexual wellness and relationships podcast — and she writes for major publications about the LGBTQ+ community, travel, lifestyle, sex, and wellness. In 2022, she received her master of fine arts in creative writing from The New School.

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