6 hours Ago By Jeanne Phillips
DEAR ABBY: When I was still working, I decided not to tell anyone about the second home we purchased in 2018 as a weekend getaway.Related ArticlesDear Abby: It’s like I’m living in a movie, but not in a good wayDear Abby: I don’t want this child at my house. What do I tell her parents?Dear Abby: My husband’s excuse is that he only ogles women who are prettier than meDear Abby: My wife’s big problem is hidden in the closetDear Abby: Should I destroy the video of my husband trying to poison me?I kept my mouth shut because I didn’t want my boss to think I was rich and perhaps not give me a raise.
I recently retired and keep in touch with many former colleagues. I feel bad that I never told them and continue not to share with them where I go with my husband on weekends.Should I fess up? If I tell them now, do I tell them I didn’t trust that they wouldn’t share the news with my boss?Although I didn’t lie, I feel guilty for not sharing with them.
What is your advice?— NERVOUS IN NEW JERSEYDEAR NERVOUS: How relevant would this information be to your former co-workers? You are entitled to a private life, and it isn’t necessary to reveal what financial assets you have to anyone beyond your accountant and your attorney. (And, of course, the IRS if they ask.)Stop flogging yourself over something that is nobody’s beeswax.
If you allude to the fact that you and your husband spent the weekend away from your primary dwelling, who is to know it wasn’t purchased after your retirement?DEAR ABBY: I’m a 23-year-old college student struggling to find direction in life.I’ve been trying to find a part-time job and an internship, but I have had no success.This leaves me increasingly anxious, especially as my parents, who currently help me with tuition and rent, are getting older and can’t continue working much longer.
Adding to my stress, my chosen field is considered unique in my culture, where people are often stereotyped into specific roles. This makes it harder for me to find opportunities or build connections. On top of that, I’m adjusting to a new culture that’s the opposite of what I’m used to.
It’s my first time navigating such an environment, and I often feel left out or that I don’t fully understand certain things.I’m afraid to bring this up with my parents, as it’s common in my culture for parents to provide for their children.I feel like I’m falling behind.
Feeling confused and misunderstood, my mind is at a crossroads, which adds to my anxiety. How can I start to find clarity and confidence in my situation?— A BIT LOST IN COLORADORelated ArticlesAsking Eric: My income has doubled since the divorce. Do I owe my ex anything?Dear Abby: It’s like I’m living in a movie, but not in a good wayAsking Eric: My final farewell with a friend left me feeling emptyHarriette Cole: My friend thought I’d be foolish enough to fall for his schemeMiss Manners: One of the guests made everybody walk out in the middle of my partyDEAR A BIT LOST: Many students find it difficult to adjust to college life.
The fact that you come from another culture only adds to that.Try reaching out to the dean of your department or talking to an adviser in the student counseling services to find the help you’re looking for. If there are other students from your culture, they may also be able to help by explaining things to you.
Do these things, and you may find out that you are not as lost as you fear you are.Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.
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